@synu sex doesn’t touch my soul anymore. I’ve lived and moved on. Some sex in the age of birth control is simply just that. Add the formative years of porn consumption and the sex you believe in is just not there.
Sure there is a meaningful connection between sexual partners. There ought to be. I’m also not very interested in sex that isn’t in some sense emotionally connected. I literally wouldn’t be able to get hard. But I know and you do too that this is idealism nonsense.
Sex lost its esteem to me. As it will for people who have it with the girls of today. The self obsession of today. It just doesn’t lend itself to this philosophy. After four sexual partners, two with love, one with naivety and one with matching freak I just kinda moved on from all sex is soul bonds. Or that bonding your soul to people is all that bad. Don’t be liberal with your body is good advice. But it’s no deeper than you’ll have better sex if you’re choosey.
What you are talking about with the importance of sex I feel in the moments when my partner takes care of me. Tends my wounds. Brushes my hair. Books an appointment for me. Even when we talk and we are just able to exist beyond everything else around us. Sure this can be sexually expressed as well but it is really so much more rare and often not the sex I’m having. Even when I am “making love”.